Friday, September 4, 2015

Getting Out of Your Own Way

Happy Friday everyone!!

I'm so happy for the weekend!  It's been a week of new things and I'm ready to relax with my family! 

One thing I really want to quickly mention is Periscope.  It's a very new social media application that I absolutely love and I'm trying to learn to be better at it.  I tend to feel awkward when I talk about something for a long period of time because I know how long winded I can be and I wonder if people are listening anymore hahah...  This is a great medium to learn to speak better to groups of people and I'm trying to better myself in this particular area.  This month, I'm getting out of my own way and doing a #SeptemberScoper challenge.  Go Find me on there!

Another "new" this week was my daughter Josie's first week of 1st Grade!  What a new beginning to not be in Kindergarten any more.  My Josie is anything but shy once you get to know her but change makes her nervous.  That's pretty standard stuff in the world we live in, getting nervous about change, but I try to teach her confidence even at a very young age.

A couple of years ago, I tough her 4 things that I think EVERY little girl needs to know about themselves.  Here are the 4 things:

I'm Beautiful.  I'm Smart. I'm Funny. Everybody Loves me.

When I taught her this, she was 3 and having a tough time battling shyness.  I know there's nothing wrong with shyness.  I consider myself an extrovert in most situations, but I still battle with a shyness or awkwardness in a lot of situations myself.  After teaching her these 4 things, I started saying them to myself.  It doesn't have to be these 4 things but when you find yourself having self doubt, what is it that you doubt about yourself?  I realized that these are my 4 things.  They may seem weird to you but here's a little more information about why these things are important to both young girls and women alike (lol, in "grown up" terms).

  1. I'm Beautiful.  So often, as a woman, I question the way I look in certain situations.  It's a personal pet peeve of mine when a woman that I think should be SO confident, asks if what she's wearing is okay for whatever situation. 

    Wear what you love!  Wear what makes you feel confident! 

    When I was overweight, my confidence was called into question every day.  I had so many reasons to not get on track in my mind but now that I got out of my own way and just did it, I'm SO happy I did.  I thought it was going to be too hard, or take too much time, or not be worth the effort but let me tell you, IT WAS!!.  It was never about the weight.  It's about the way I FEEL. 

    I'm sorry to offend but I hate when people at the beach point out people who "shouldn't be wearing that."  It truly angers me.  Don't be a hater!!  They're more confident than you are.  Instead of "circling their fat," appreciate their confidence in a world that doesn't always allow for it to truly shine through.  You shouldn't have to look a certain way to feel confident but it's a part of life.  If you feel like you would feel better if you looked a certain way, then get out of your own way, and do something.  I can help!!
  2. I'm Smart.  Who cares what your IQ is?  I'm an amazing bookkeeper.  I've been told that before by lots of people.  But when it comes down to it, who cares?  I love math, so that's why I'm good at it.  I love order and reporting and business.  Finding a need that people have and coming up with a real solution in the way that entrepreneurs do is amazing to me. 

    I NEVER watch the news and it's laughable how little I know about geography. 

    It's never about what you know, or what you don't know.  It's all about taking the time to know about what your passionate about.  That could be organization, health, or fashion, or makeup, or even coupon clipping.  Just pick something you love TODAY and take the time to get good at it.  You may have to try a few things and you may have to fail forward but find something you're passionate about and do it.  You don't have to be great at it, especially in the beginning, but keep researching and finding people who are good at it and spend time with them.  There is nothing wrong with finding a mentor who is good at something you want to do.
  3. I'm Funny.  Always be able to laugh at yourself.  Don't berate yourself, or make yourself look bad for a laugh, but don't take yourself too seriously either.  Life is Short!  We've all heard of tragedies where people leave this world earlier then they should've.  Don't beat yourself up. 

    I've been told my entire life that people around me love my laugh...  do you know why?  I do.  It's because I laugh loud and I laugh often!!  I don't make other people feel bad and laugh at them.  I help them to see why it's funny and laugh with them.  Try that sometimes.  Lift people up who are down with a smile. 

    Try to laugh as often as you can.  Watch a funny movie, or a comedian you love and just let yourself really laugh out loud, as loud as you can, without caring who likes your laugh.
  4. Everybody Loves Me.  Ok.  If you're reading this, you're probably over 5 years old so lets call a spade, a spade.  This isn't true! 

    Everybody will never love you. 

    If you're speaking your mind or just being you or dressing the way you dress, or smiling the way you smile, you're going to get on people's nerves.  People are haters sometimes.  The secret is to avoid haters like the plague.  Don't let people suck your energy or your time.  If you're a hater, then change!!  Wouldn't it be amazing if there were NO Haters in the world!  LOL...  yeah, I know that's never gonna happen. 

    You have the power to be positive and speak to others who are positive.  Surround yourself with great energy.  And when you find people that do love you, love them back!  Not a little, or quietly, but really love them back.  I'll be honest and need to work on this  myself but I know I'll get there! 


  1. Love this! Great contagious positive attitude

  2. Love this! Great contagious positive attitude

  3. Thanks so much Barbara! I definitely hope it is contagious! I think a lot of people would do well to say this to themselves often! xoxo